Lindsay’s back with the second installment in her series, Single, 20-Something, and Tri-ing. She discussed Dating to start the series off. Here she talks about what it’s like to be a triathlete and have roommates…
Many types of relationships become difficult to handle when one adopts the triathlete lifestyle. We’re 20-something, we just graduated, have a budding career, and rent! I live in LA – the land of face-slapping rent prices and therefore, mandatory roommates. I’ve had a lot of roommates. And, let’s say this is still a learning experience for me…because most have been unsuccessful. But, some have been ok!
Living with a triathlete as a roommate has to be the MOST annoying thing ever – 5 am and we are either clanking dishes around slurping our preswim oatmeal or we are vibrating the house on the bike trainer. Add to that – our clothes are always smelly, we’re constantly doing laundry, and when you enter the bathroom, you’ll find any fun surprises ranging from a wetsuit hanging up in the shower to moldy chlorine-scented swim suits hanging on every hook. Seriously, who would want to live with you?! So, since I have some experience on this topic, here are some rules I live by to establish and maintain the peace.
BE UP FRONT WITH YOUR POTENTIAL ROOMMATE
You have to be upfront from the beginning about everything. Seriously. Put it all out there. My most successful roommate and I had a conversation before we moved in together. This is what I let her know:
- On Wednesdays and Fridays at 5:30 am, I’ll be loud on a trainer, but that I’ll put pads underneath it to minimize noise.
- I promise not to ride outside designated days.
- I’ll be super quiet when I wake up, but I’m an early morning riser.
- I’ll only keep wetsuits in the shower for 24 hours tops and that I’ll have a designated hook for swimsuits, etc.
Anything that might be annoying, you have to just lay it out there. That way, in the future, she can’t really complain because she was warned, and agreed to move in anyway. Also, this gives you guys an upfront forum to have a conversation and a chance to come up with creative ways to compromise.
GET CREATIVE WITH QUIET
Face it, bike trainers are loud. Invest in a mix of puzzle mats and yoga pads. Do calisthenics outdoors. Wear soft-soled shoes or get some acrobatic mats, so it doesn’t sound like there’s a stampede in your house big enough to kill Mufasa. Sometimes you may have to compromise and do trainer rides at night or buy your roomie ear plugs 😉
BE PICKY ABOUT CHOOSING A ROOMMATE
This is crucial. Really interview people. Maybe you need to find a fellow athlete? Or someone who works at 6am or the night shift? Or is just a really heavy sleeper? Don’t be afraid to interview your candidates in and out! It’s much easier to find the right one from the start, then to have to keep starting over.
COMMUNICATE
Make sure you both establish communication as a priority. Try and discuss any potential issue before it becomes a full-blown problem that can’t be resolved. You both will have to be flexible, within reason, in trying to reach resolution, though, if you want to stay roommates.
I hope these tips help you find that roommate that will stick around for awhile. We triathletes may be annoying, but we also come with a lot of positive attributes, too…
Keep being young, wild, and free, you sexy, single, 20-something trident triathlete you. And, go PR on the course and in life.
Xo LINDSAY BERKEBILE
HOW HAVE YOU SURVIVED HAVING ROOMMATES AS A TRIATHLETE?
Sherry is one of the TriWivesClub and LifeDoneWell co-founders and contributes to multiple blogs. She is a former co-owner of the California Apparel News and had a career in the healthcare industry. Her passions include traveling, real food, the environment, and animal rescue/welfare. She lives a healthy lifestyle and has been a vegetarian since 1987. She and her husband are parents to two rescue pups and reside in Connecticut.
Okay, I have to ask about the picture with the gas mask. Costume party? I thought girls’ sweat didn’t stink!!!
yeah – costume party – i was getting ready to go to a super heroes/villains halloween party and I was going as Bane from Batman.
I just went through this. I had lived with a guy who wasn’t a triathlete, but lived a pretty active lifestyle for 4.5 years, but he got married and so I had to find a new roommate. I put it all out there in a craigslist ad and after some very picky interviews/dinners I found someone to split a place with. I was upfront with him about everything and so far it’s worked out great. He is ready for ironman to get here so I’m a little more fun on the weekends. I do remember my old roommate saying when he met him, “He doesn’t have a clue how much you run or ride your bike.”
It is hard living with a triathlete, mostly for me because of the hours. I’m a night person so it’s a tough adjustment. He has to be considerate with lights and noise in the am and I have to do the same thing when I’m up past midnight. Thanks Lindsay. Nice post.
Thanks for your comments guys! nice to know you can relate!!